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Defining Why And How I Choose To Live My Life
© Lee Wise 2003 All rights reserved
There can be many "faces" to success. To name only a few, success for some people might be...
*Being a loving, caring and encouraging parent
*Earning so many dollars a year
*Writing the book I have always wanted to write
*Just "making it" through another day of pain
*Communicating in a motivational manner
*Helping people overcome various obstacles they face
These are all worthwhile achievements to strive for in life. However, I would like to be a little "less" specific.
My spin on at least one way of viewing success is summed up in a quote I wrote recently:
© Lee Wise 2003
The realization that I am living my life in harmony with my own values and dreams -- a realization that is framed by two very important needs: the need to keep on growing and the complementary need to deal with my own shortcomings in a wholesome manner.
THREE KEY QUESTIONS
Let's turn these thoughts into three key questions we could ask ourselves:
1. Am I living in harmony with my own values and dreams?
2. Am I becoming the person I can and want to become?
3. Am I dealing with my shortcomings in a wholesome manner?
THE FIRST QUESTION
"Am I living in harmony with my own values and dreams?" In my opinion, no one can become truly successful if they are not living in harmony with their deepest held values and goals: or consistently striving to live in harmony with them. Why? Because when we are living the way we
strongly feel we should be living, we are at rest on the inside. We know "things are right."
Things match up. Who we feel we should be on the inside matches with how we live our everyday lives.
THE SECOND QUESTION
"Am I becoming the person I can and want to become?" This is not an apple-pie-in-the-sky approach to life. It is not striving for perfection. But it is saying...
"I do have a great deal of potential."
"I do have some sense of excitement and responsibility for living up to my personal potential."
I believe the potential we have as individual human beings is a gift. It is a gift that is to be opened and developed as much as possible within the context of our own unique life settings. Why? Because it is in the opening and developing our wonderful gift of personal potential that we benefit not only ourselves but those in our circle of influence.
THE THIRD QUESTION
"Am I dealing with my shortcomings in a wholesome manner?" You could make any number of comments regarding this issue, but here are a few for you to think about:
I know I have areas of weakness, but I am not allowing those areas of overwhelm me. Instead, I work at correcting the weaker areas while continuing to use and develop my gifts and abilities. I do not let myself be defined by my weaknesses. I view myself in a healthy manner. I am a person with a "blend" of strengths and weaknesses like everyone else on this planet. I deal with my weaknesses truthfully. Those that are serious, I term them... "serious"! I don't, for instance, accept
patterns of abusiveness as "that's the way I am." Instead, I make responsible choices and get help. On the other hand, I don't think the world has come to an end because I couldn't fix the light switch! (You guessed it: I
hate attempting to make home repairs. My home "repairs" usually end up as home disasters.)
"The realization that I am living my life in harmony with my own values and dreams. A realization that is framed by two very important needs:
The need to keep on growing.
The complementary need to deal with my own shortcomings in a wholesome manner."
JUST LIKE A "PROF"
What grade would you give to a student named "You"? "I am living in harmony with my own values and dreams." Your grade would be...?
"I am becoming the person I can and want to become." Your grade would be...?
"I am dealing with my shortcomings in a wholesome manner." Your grade would be...?
TWO MORE COMMENTS...
It is okay to grade "high." Truthful affirmations concerning how we are doing are "okay" in my book. If you graded yourself a bit lower than you would like, is this the right time for you to take small, achievable steps of action in the direction that would allow you to give yourself a more satisfying evaluation in the not-too-distant future?
Yours for a day filled with beautiful moments in time,
Lee is a seminary administrator, has a part-time business at home, and writes two motivational ezines: "A Beautiful Moment In Time" and "Hope For Daily Living." Permission is given to distribute article. This paragraph must be included. Email:
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